I just got off the phone with the CEO of a major dating company here in the Bay area…
And he’s mentioned that he’s got a problem on his hands – lots of eligible women are
showing up at the events…and there aren’t enough men!
As we explored this, it’s that same theme — it seems that men (especially 40+) seem to be fairly RESIGNED to their life situation…
Basically, they’re not motivated to get out there and make something happen.
They’re settling.
Like, they’ve been whupped by life, so they’ve settled for being single, settled for their day job, and are “making do” with their day-to-day routine.
And I can understand that…life can be tough!
It’s all some of us can do to get out of bed in the morning, much less get out there and meet someone.
I WANT TO BE SEDATED…?
It’s just easier to sedate ourselves with gadgets, video games, tv, sports and porn…or the pursuit of material possessions…
…than to get honest with ourselves about what we’re doing with our lives, what we want, and where we’re headed.
I can see this in myself too…left to my own devices, I’ll follow the tendency to sedate myself,“trance out” and coast along with the rest of the unconscious masses.
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Dude, as a fortysomething San Francisco man, I gotta know…where the hell are these events with not enough men?
Careful, Bryan. I’ve been your age. You have yet to be mine. Energy fades after a certain age. Hard to get it back. I don’t care how much qi gong you do. Couple that with diminished opportunities, and that may explain the old, “settled” business. (I don’t like it, either. And my friends who are older say, “You ain’t seen nothing, yet.”)
So how old are these women? There are times I look at the young ones (20’s, 30’s) and think, “They’re too young. Might as well be looking at the 10-year-old next door.”
And there are times I Look at the ones my age and older and think, “Aw, shit! I’m not THAT old, am I?”
Life can be hilarious.
Good article.
Im 29 and I’ve fount myself tranced out and settling for routine as if I were a retiree.Never thought I’d have this mind-set at age 29 despite being advand in dating(pick-up).