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Today, Shelly answers the question from Fabio about handling awkward feelings that arise in him after he’s declared his interest in a woman.
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Hey, Shelly-
Nice feedback. FWIW, I wanted to share something that came through my head while listening to this and thinking about how getting attached to outcomes pulls us off center. And that’s how paradoxically, the more we can accept that we have no control over the things we don’t, the *more* control and effectiveness we have with the things we *do* control.
Which, as Jim Camp points out in his great negotiating book “Start With No,” is only our own actions. Nothing more. (aside- that’s a great book written mostly about business situations, but a lot of his ideas apply to all human interaction, and no, I’m not on commission) I’ve found that the more I can accept that anything besides my own actions is really just out of my control, the more effective my actions are.
Great answer, Shelly.
It’s all about balance, and being comfortably secure in oneself. All living things are naturally in balance, or they would be dead, so it becomes really about perceived comfort.
I would say, listen to these lovely ladies of AMP, trust what they say, and if you feel a need for a method of finding that comfortable security of self, do the AMP program. It is utter simplicity, and truth.
Shelly-
First of all, forgive me, this is my first time on the blog here, so I have no sense of decorum or etiquette.
But I just had to say, when I watched this video, I involuntarily smiled. And the mental chatter in my head went to “I am in love!” So I thought “That’s weird… why did I just think that?” and went back and watched it again, and I think I’ve figured it out. Whenever you’re not paying attention to anything in particular, you involuntarily smile too, with a great big awesome smile. That’s your default setting… which is something really rare around here, so seeing it made me happy.
Great answer, and thanks for brightening my day before work and teaching me something about myself at the same time. 🙂
LoL! You’re such a dork (your laugh made me smile)
mmmm “goofy guy going to stand up for what’s right..not fun and will do it anyway”….I can be that guy who is goofy fun and I can be the serious guy and right now I have a lot on my mind regarding standing up for what’s right…(hopefully I can find a way to make it fun but if not, I need to do it anyway)…..SO your smile and dorkiness brought some lightness to my experience. Thanks! :O)
Joshua